First Day of Lent: Trusting God Day by Day


Today marks the first day of Lent. In fact, as I write this post, I can hear the church bells ringing in the distance to mark the start of service. This is the season where people give up something they are attached to (e.g., red meat, chocolate, staying up late, etc). It can be anything. This year, I decided to give up social media (Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter), red meat, and processed foods. Let’s just say, it will be a tough 6 weeks. This year however, instead of only giving up things, I have also decided to add routines, healthier cuisines and practices to my daily life. One of these such additions is this book by Joyce Meyer, “Trusting God Day by Day.” Lent, at the end of the day is much deeper than making the decision, “should I get the plain baked chips or the salt and pepper kettle chips”… it’s also about getting closer to God.

My relationship with God has always been present. However, through reflection and a recent car accident that could have been fatal, i’ve realized that I can no longer hear God’s voice. It sounds very cliche, but there was once a point in my life growing up where a sensation would come over me, and I would know it was God working through me. But adult life has stripped me of this luxury. I go to church every Sunday,  Monday – Friday at work, on weekends I binge watch Netflix or visit friends/family, and when i’m not doing any of those, i’m keeping up with current events– most likely reading the New Yorker magazine with a cup of coffee in my right hand. In short, I am constantly going. I need to learn to stop and think. To breathe. To listen.

I pray this lenten season will yield the results I want, and if you’re participating in lent too–I hope yours is an amazing success as well.

The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump


Despite holding a degree in Political Science, I don’t always enjoy reading books about American political leaders. However, this particular book caught and held my attention. It was the perfect blend of the technicality of the field of psychiatry, and the emotional world of activism. 

This book centers on the analysis of 27 psychiatrists who diagnose 45 with a range of illnesses including narcissism (of course we all knew this). However, they make a very interesting point. It does not take a psychiatrist to  identify that 45 has multiple mental illnesses, diagnosed or undiagnosed. They do not argue that mental illnesses by default make a person unfit to be president, as indicated in the fact that previous U.S. presidents have struggled with mental illnesses and have completed terms. However, they note that the combination of mental health issues that plague 45 are problematic for the entire country. To name a handful: his continuous outlandish lying; his contradictory statements; his aggressive behavior; his sociopathic tendencies; and his inability to hold a thought. All of this, the American populous can easily identify through public platforms (e.g., television, social media). Given the public knowledge regarding the mental health of 45, it is a surprise that he was still voted into office.

Despite the knowledge of his shortcomings, the authors recognize that 45 is not their “patient” per se, rather, their “patients” are individuals who voted for him. It’s quite the plot twist. The authors aim to better understand, why people made the conscious decision to elect a man who executes irrational and unstable behaviors into the highest office in the nation. Thomas Singer asserts that this is due to the “woundedness at the core of the America group Self,” with 45 offering an avenue through which the wounds can begin to heal. This possibility, makes his supporters overlook his mental state, and many may even deem him as being normal despite the obvious red flags.

This book will certainly be a hot topic of debate in the coming months as people strive to better understand how in the world a man like 45 was elected. 


Not so “Americanah”

She gave him the stare that she gives anyone who dares to humiliate her in public. It was a stare that when observed, would momentarily paralyze an individual, as a swift chill ran through their veins. He lowered his gaze, ashamed that he had ever opened his mouth to comment on her insecurities. Although she smiled at his realization of his wrongness, the void within her was not yet filled.

Uprooted from her home at age 4, she reaps the consequences of the actions made so long ago by people other than her. “Real American girl,” was among their favorite terms to call her. Along with “White girl,” and “onyinbo.” She always felt grounded in who she was- a Nigerian- and yet, in a matter of seconds all that she knew was challenged by the rhetoric of a few relatives. 

Her predicament is worsened by her inability to speak her native tongue (Igbo), nor can she fully understand it. She often blames her parents for not being more assertive with her when it came to learning the language. As a remedy, she ceaselessly began researching online Igbo courses that would teach her the language, and ultimately help her become more Nigerian. Her obsession with the language got to the point where she no longer wanted to learn Igbo for its intrinsic value, but rather for the extrinsic benefits that it would grant her- freedom from taunting from her extended family. But the reality still remains that she does not know her own language, and every trip back to Nigeria is a solemn reminder of this fact. 

Too American for Nigeria and too Nigerian for America. Not fully assimilated into either culture. An identity crisis that she thought was only reserved for people of mixed races. All she wanted was to be fully accepted by both cultures, and yet she was denied by both. Neither here, nor there. 

She just prays that they will one day accept her for who she has become, a liquid that flows between two cultures, never quite filling either to the brim. 


Soul Sundays: Cuban Inspired Jollof Rice

Cuban spice paste
  • 1/4 cup Spanish paprika or sweet Hungarian paprika
  • 2 teaspoons minced garlic
  • 1/4 cup fresh lime juice
  • 2 tablespoons rum (optional)
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons salt
  • 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
  • 2 teaspoons fresh oregano, chopped
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground cumin
  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1 1/2 pounds boneless pork loin chops (1-inch thick), cut into 1-inch cubes
  • 1 tablespoon olive oil
  • 2 cups chopped onions
  • 2 tablespoons chopped garlic
  • 2 cups arborio rice
  • 3 cups canned low-sodium chicken broth
  • 1 cup drained canned diced tomatoes
  • 1/2 cup fire-roasted red bell peppers
  • 16 large shrimp
  • 2 cups thawed artichoke hearts, thawed (can sub 2 cups cooked fresh or thawed frozen green beans)
  • Salt and freshly ground black pepper


  1. Combine all the ingredients in a medium bowl and mix to make a paste. Add the pork and toss to coat well. 
  2. Preheat the oven to 350°F.
  3. Heat the oil in a large nonstick ovenproof skillet over medium-high heat. Remove the pork from the spice paste and pat dry, reserving the spice paste in the bowl. Add the pork to the pan and cook, turning occasionally, for 5 minutes, or until browned on all sides. Remove the pork and set aside. 
  4. Reduce the heat to medium, add the onions and garlic, and cook, scraping up any browned bits from the bottom of the pan, for 5 minutes, or until soft.
  5. Add the rice, stirring until well coated with the onion mixture. Stir in the broth, tomatoes, saffron and the reserved spice paste. Bring to a boil, reduce the heat to a simmer and cook for 15 minutes.
  6. Transfer to the oven. Bake for 10 minutes. Stir in the pork, then scatter the peppers, shrimp, and artichoke hearts over the rice.
  7. Cover and bake for 10 minutes more, or until the rice is tender, the liquid has been absorbed, and the shrimp are  pink.
  8. To serve, stir the rice to incorporate all the ingredients and season to taste with salt and pepper.

4 Key Takeaways from the Yale University Emerging Leaders Seminar


I recently had the opportunity to attend the Emerging Leaders Seminar at Yale University’s School of Management (SOM). They hosted seminars on a variety of topics from, “The Value of an MBA in the Global Market,” to “Why Would Companies Invest in Better Environmental Performance?”   

Here are four key lessons I learned from the various sessions:

  1. What qualifies as “risk” in a risk mitigation strategy changes overtime. As policies change and evolve, companies react to the shifts. For example, in the 1960s, although child labor was verbally disapproved of, child labor laws were relatively nonexistent. A company in the 1960s that developed body soap for example, would not factor into their risk mitigation strategy the children in south east Asia working for low pay on palm oil plantations, palm oil being an ingredient in the body soap. However, today, that same body soap company would actively factor into their risk mitigation strategy child labor because of three main factors: strict child labor regulation, watchful NGOs, and the rise of technology and the media.
  2. Companies are becoming more sustainable for two primary reasons. Companies are actively working to increase their sustainability because of reputational risk and profit. As more companies move toward sustainability, others feel inclined to join the movement, fearing that failure to do so will result in dissatisfied customers who prefer sustainable practices. Moreover, being sustainable will attract customers who care about the company’s environmental footprint. In addition, companies care about their profit. Studies reveal that in the long term, sustainable practices can yield higher earnings. While many people contend that sustainability cuts into profit by increasing costs, research has found that sustainable practices have led to efficient operations by streamlining efforts and conserving resources, which subsequently reduces cost.
  3. The importance of social justice in business. According to the Yale SOM website, “the mission of the Yale School of Management is to educate leaders for business and society.” It is integral that Yale SOM graduates enter the business world with practical skills and empathy- ready to bring positive change to the world through ethical business practices. Whether it is through implementing sustainable business practices in a company, or working with vertical supply chain companies to ethically improve processes to enhance the livelihoods of the people at the bottom of the supply chain, Yale SOM graduates are prepared to improve the conditions of our world.
  4. Actively ask for concrete feedback. According to the article, “Vague Feedback is Holding Women Back” by Shelley Correll and Caroline Simard, women are less likely to receive feedback that can actually improve their performance. The feedback they receive is often vague and restricted to bland statements such as, “keep up the good work!” In contrast, men often receive concrete/technical advice from their manager(s). They are told specifically what areas they need to improve, and are provided steps regarding how to improve. As a result, men are likely to climb the corporate ladder quicker than women. Furthermore, giving/receiving feedback is complicated by “barriers” such as race, gender, age, etc. Regardless, it is vital for us to recognize that how we give feedback matters particularly for the individual receiving feedback. Additionally, how often and strategically we ask for feedback also influences our performance outcomes.

I would like to thank the Yale University School of Management for selecting me to be a part of a unique and phenomenal group of future global leaders.

Saturday Sayings: “I am because we are and because we are, therefore I am.”

My dad played a recording for me as I stood in the kitchen washing the dishes. The recording was about two minutes long, but it essentially said, “If Nigerian immigrants can be successful in America, why can’t African Americans?” He nodded in approval of the message the white man was spewing, and I looked at him dazed. 

As a Nigerian immigrant woman living in the U.S., this kind of rhetoric makes me uneasy. It’s elitist and completely denies context. Unfortunately, this is not the first time I have heard such statements.

It is no secret that Nigerian immigrants are among the best-educated groups in the United States. It is no secret that many Nigerian immigrants have been “successful” in the United States. But it appears to be unknown to many Nigerian immigrants how their education and success in the U.S., is intrinsically tied to the history of African Americans.

From Plessy v Ferguson (1896) to Brown v Board of Education (1954), African Americans have had to fight the system. They have railed against injustice, and white supremacy since the slave trade. During critical periods that shaped the lives of Blacks in America, where were most Nigerians? They were still in Nigeria. It was not until the 1970’s and 1980’s when large waves of Nigerian immigrants came to the U.S., most of them on government-funded scholarships for college education. They did not have to drink from separate fountains, or sit on the back of buses- yet, simple recognition of the privileges they had flew over their heads. How many Nigerian immigrants put their foot to the fire? Even today, while many African Americans continue to take to the streets in protest of unjust causes, many Nigerian immigrants continue with their careers as lawyers, doctors, engineers, etc. prepared to benefit from the labor of African Americans. 

One could argue that being successful in such prominent fields is railing against the system in its own right; however, I’d have to disagree. One can be successful and still advocate for the causes of the larger group- the two are not mutually exclusive. Although studies have shown that as people move up the class ladder, their demands for justice become less militant and more complacent. Is this what happened to Nigerian immigrants? Have they fallen into complacency?

At the end of the day, Nigerian immigrants are black, and like many blacks in the U.S., they experience discrimination whether they acknowledge it or not. Whether it’s the fact that despite educational advantages, Nigerians have only a slightly higher median annual income than the general U.S. population. Or whether it’s Matthew Ajibade who was tortured to death by police in the U.S. We need our African American brothers and sisters because we cannot deny our blackness because of our successes. While the “model black minority” may have a nice ring to it, it results in a dangerous divide that will ultimately result in Nigerians immigrants on the losing end. 

This is only my perspective, i’d love to hear the thoughts of others and begin a dialogue. 


The Couple

The couple stares at the blank wall

Passion absent from their souls

Darkened, icy stares linger on splintered cracks

The couple stares at the blank wall

Cackling reapers tugging at their souls 

Scything memories into baseless holes

The couple stares at the blank wall

Passion absent from their souls

Soul Sundays: Jollof Rice



3 cups of rice
Olive Oil
1 can of Hereford Corned Beef
1 can of Tomato Paste
1 can (depends) of Chicken Broth
Half an onion (chopped)
Celery Seed

SERVING SIZE: 4 – 6 people

1) Boil 3 cups of rice (Uncle Ben’s) in one pot
2) Add olive oil to the second pot
3) Add chopped onions
4) Add 3/4 of tomato paste
5) let fry for a little bit
6) Add Knorr, curry, celery seed, pepper, and salt (Be generous with the Knorr, but restrictive with the celery seed)
7) Let fry of a little bit. Mix frequently
8) Add can of chicken broth. Let sit of a bit.
**Rice should be done boiling by now (but NOT fully cooked) Sieve rice**
9) Add rice to the other ingredients and let sit for a 5 minutes
10) Add corned beef (Stove should be on medium/low heat)
**Leave it like this until the rice is fully coked**
11) Stir (when rice is fully cooked)
12) Bon Apetit!

Saturday Sayings: We Should all be Feminists


Some people ask:Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?” Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general—but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women.” – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

On this gloomy Saturday morning in San Francisco, California, I decided to ignore my chores and take the time instead to read this 64-page masterpiece. Needless to say, this book did not let me down. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as usual, was witty and straight to the point- we should all be feminists. 

Growing up as a Nigerian woman in both Nigeria and the United States, I connect with Adichie who is also a Nigerian woman. I’ve recognized that Nigerian culture is deeply patriarchal. One that I relent not because I despise men, but rather because I want to be equal to them. Chimamanda clearly states what feminism is – the, “social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.” Yet, some people are incapable or unwilling to grasp such a simple premise. Why?

After I finished the book, I texted someone dear to me about all my take away points from the book. He didn’t respond right away like he normally does. In fact, he didn’t respond an hour, or even two later. It was four hours before he finally replied. He stated that he was well aware of the struggles that women experience because he grew up in a house full of women. Then he went on to talk about how he cares a lot about labor rights. Correct me if i’m wrong, but I texted him about women’s rights and not the latter. Right? So why is it that when the topic of gender equality is brought up, it quickly turns into a conversation of other rights? This is a key point that Adichie makes. For example, yes women’s rights are an aspect of human rights, but we aren’t talking about human rights as a whole, we are talking about women’s rights and to broaden the conversation to humans as a whole is an injustice. 

I challenge you if you haven’t already to read this book. Step out of your comfort zone, and for the duration of the book, and hopefully longer, put on a feminist lens.